I would like to share this article written by photographer, Cameron Ingalls. His blog can be found here. It was featured in the latest issue of YWD (Your Wedding Day). He is such a wonderful photographer, filled with a true gift for imagery. He has one of the largest hearts ever, and is one of those people that touches lives and makes a difference. Though this is written for brides and grooms, it is a great read and I think all wedding photogoraphers can learn from his words. Enjoy his article.
So, You have booked your photographer and may now be wondering, ‘should we get the engagement session too?’ I mean, if you’re already hiring someone to photograph you for eight hours on your wedding day, do you really need extra pictures?!
Well, one good reason to get the engagement session could be to provide you with some beautiful pictures to give as party favors or an enlargement for display at your wedding. But, as a wedding photographer, I’ve learned there’s much more important reasons to celebrate the emotions and energy which spring from this exciting stage of life.
When I started shooting weddings, I thought of the engagement session as good practice for the wedding, but it seems my couples have taught me what it’s really all about. So, Instead of telling you my top ten reasons for getting these shots, I want to share with you what I have learned from brides and grooms just like you. Here are the stories of a few of the couples I have had the privilege of photographing, not only on their wedding days, but also during their engagements.

Nathan and Tiffany wanted to shoot their pictures in a secluded forest. Since they were coming from Santa Cruz, we decided to meet half way in the beautiful coastal mountains of Big Sur. Prior to the session, we had lunch and talked about everything from our favorite music to their future plans. It was an intimate time of sharing about our interests, our dreams and ourselves and it gave me a chance to understand what makes their relationship unique. Later, as we tromped through fields of poison oak and ducked under heavy pine branches, we were no longer just a photographer and his clients. We were friends hanging out in a forest, on an adventure to capture the perfect images to tell the story of Nathan and Tiffany. I learned from them that building a friendship is a great way to achieve beautiful, natural-looking images.

I clicked with Denton and Sadye immediately and by the time our initial meeting had ended, a new friendship was blossoming. They wanted an urban/industrial feel for their session, so we headed downtown as I had a couple of locations in mind that would work perfectly. Our first stop was in front of a metal warehouse and it was immediately evident that this photo shoot was going to be exceptional. I put an 85 mm lens on, backed off and told them to start playing. They were absolute naturals!
Later, I asked Sadye to share with future brides how she was able to be so comfortable in front of the lens. “You are taking engagement photos to show who you and your fiancé are as two individuals completely in love. Be confident, and don’t apologize for being yourself in front of the camera. If you get the jitters, take a step back, breathe, close your eyes and breathe again. Then, look into your fiancé’s eyes and find a moment that makes you smile. Just be in the moment until you forget that the camera is there.” I found that photographing them was as easy as simply observing and capturing their unashamed chemistry.

I think the most encouraging feedback I’ve received from a bride came from Allegra Parreira. I shot her engagement session last October at another of my favorite locations, a gorgeous beach in Montana De Oro State Park. I could see right away that this couple were deeply in love and it wouldn’t take much direction for them to be comfortable in front of the camera—in fact, they soon became absorbed in each other and their personalities began to show. After I gave them their engagement proofs, Allegra sent me a note, “Your pictures were the first time I was able to see how I look at Christan and how he looks at me… for the first time I saw what our love looks like and I was able to understand how true that love is! You managed to capture the essence of us… goofy, laughing, fun, in love and with an ability to be serious.” I learned from Christan and Allegra that the engagement session is more than just practice for the wedding—it’s an opportunity to preserve one of the most romantic seasons of your relationship and to capture the bliss you felt at the beginning of your lifetime together.
So when you run out to get photographed before the big day, make sure you take some advice from these expert brides. Become friends with your photographer – ask a ton of questions and be sure to share who you are. You will find yourself able to be more comfortable, more relaxed and even more romantic while being photographed. This will help your photographer to get natural and heartfelt pictures of you and your fiancé and will greatly increase your level of comfort in front of the camera on your wedding day.
But, most of all, be confident and unashamed. Take the time to enjoy being in love.